YouSpeak：什么是性同意？

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1. We have had more problems with victims unable to “prove” they were assaulted than causing “burdens” on those accused of it. 我个人对越来越多的性侵犯事件感到厌恶，这些事件被当局或大学忽视，或者没有妥善处理，试图保护他们的声誉。 我认为这是向前迈出的极好的一步。

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2. 最后。 A law that does not consider a woman’s default state as “yes.”

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   1. This law isn’t just about women.

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3. 对于1960年以后的女性来说，这并不是一个实质性的进步。

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4. 我猜加州的立法者没有更好的事情可做。 该法案还要求管理委员会实施全面的预防和推广计划，解决性侵犯、家庭暴力、约会暴力和跟踪问题。 通过要求社区学院学区采用或修改某些政策和协议，该法案将强制实施州强制的地方计划。 另一个头重脚轻的澳门威尼斯人注册行动，使律师和其他管理人员忙于工作，而不是解决更紧迫的需求。 读 http://leginfo.legislature.ca.gov/faces/billNavClient.xhtml?bill_id=201320140SB967

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5. 真正的问题是：如果两个学生（无论性别）在没有得到任何一方明确同意的情况下发生性关系，但没有单方面的攻击/中毒，会发生什么？ Would they then be intended to denounce each other, to avoid the other’s denounce going unchallenged?

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6. 有趣。 在我看来，每个反对的人都是男性。

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7. 这里有几个问题。

   A generation of young men that have not been disciplined to understand that they can’t TAKE what they can’t have.

   一代年轻女性被教导，权力不包括自由裁量权。 去一个有酒或毒品的聚会通常不是一个好主意。 这就是谨慎。 注意：如果你受到攻击，这并不是借口。 I only elaborate on the woman’s end of it because the problem with men requires a long term solution and women can do nothing about it except protect themselves.

   就我个人而言，我认为这项法律很愚蠢。 Unless you have some form of “evidence” that proves that both consented it will remain a “he said, she said” proposition. 如果碰巧插入的人声称他们在插入过程中说了“不”，那么插入就不能证明强奸。 Also, I can’t imagine anything more “tedious” than going through a ritual of mutual consent at every stage of COITUS. 这些法律的问题是，有罪的人会找到漏洞，一个好的辩护律师会让原告经历地狱，试图为他的客户辩护。

   最后，最好的办法是防止自己陷入这种境地。 没有人应该把自己置于一个脆弱的位置，除非他们赢得了他们的信任。 每个人信任一个人都需要几个月的时间。 他们应该证明这一点。

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   1. 乔尔，你是说参加有酒有药的派对对男人和女人都不好还是只对女人不好？ 如果你指的只是女性，那么你就是在延续双重标准，这是女性经常抱怨的。 I’m a man. 如果我去参加一个聚会，喝得酩酊大醉，有人对我进行性侵犯，那么我就成了犯罪的受害者。 简单明了。 喝醉酒不是犯罪。 I’m sorry, but booze and drugs have been a part of human celebration since probably before we even became modern humans. 许多动物物种都是故意中毒的，所以在这方面我们并不是唯一的。

      至于你的第二点，法律可以由法官和陪审团来解释。 举证的责任仍然落在原告身上，一如既往。 And if you want to invoke a tedious and unrealistic interpretation of the law, then yes, at every point, it’s possible people will have to halt what they are doing, write up consent forms and move on to the next step. The spirit of the law is that where reasonable adults are concerned, they can negotiate quickly and effectively for consent, as reasonable adults have already done for a very long time. It’s just that now, unreasonable adults have it written in stone that pushing themselves on someone, even if that person does not fight back or say no, still constitutes a crime. 性犯罪的受害者常常被恐惧、伤害（是的，喝醉了）甚至是他们自己的内疚所麻痹，因为他们不知怎么地认为他们所处的位置是他们自己的错。 性犯罪的受害者往往在事后感到困惑。 They commonly think “If I didn’t fight back, then I guess I must have wanted it” because often, that is what society and law enforcement make them believe. 是的，有罪的人仍然可以设法找到绕过这条法律的方法，但这对每一条法律都是如此。
      最后，被你认识的人强奸比被陌生人强奸更常见。 That one way that rape can be so insidious, that someone you thought you “knew” has betrayed you. 朋友、教练、老师、家人甚至配偶都可能越过这条线。 在美国已婚人口中，强奸妻子的比例可能高达10%。
      你真的需要在性侵犯方面多做些澳门威尼斯人注册网站研究。

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      1. 乔纳森，再读一遍我的帖子，这次想想。 去一个豪饮的聚会是否是个好主意取决于聚会的内容。 我避免参加公司聚会，因为我知道会发生什么。 Even though I do not drink, I knew there would be plenty of “mistakes” that night and I avoided it because it was ALL WRONG. 乔纳森，你所犯的是助长酒瘾的谬论，你只有在有酒的情况下才能享受乐趣。

         MY overall point is that you have to protect yourself, and attending a party flowing with booze with people you don’t know is stupid. Of course it is not your fault if you are attacked, but there is very little consolation after the attack that “he had no right to do it”. 最好的办法是完全避开这些场所。 我作为一个男人这样做，因为没有什么比一群喝醉的年轻人更粗鲁的了。

         你澳门威尼斯人注册婚内强奸的数据基本上是凭空捏造的。 陌生人强奸也是一个大问题。 其中有多少是强奸，又有多少是后悔。 是的，一个喝醉了的女人是不能同意的，但是，如果男人也喝醉了，你怎么能让他100%负责呢？ 整个范例充满了潜在的问题，一个好的律师会利用这些问题来获利。 Let’s take Lena Dunham’s rape into consideration. 她在强奸的事上撒了谎。 The so-called, familiar rape will have a trial of “he said, she said” issue. And since the prosecution will have to prove guilt beyond a REASONABLE DOUBT, “he said, and she said” will be fraught with reasonable doubt. Unless, as I suspect, feminists want to change the rules of evidence concerning rape, and essentially force the rapist to “PROVE HE WAS INNOCENT”. I don’t think any of us want that can of worms, because once we go down that road, it will ultimately apply to everything. 令人高兴的是，我们是一个依法推定无罪的国家。

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8. Affirmative Consent … (either verbally or nonverbally)

   这真的很难理解吗？

   If you cannot detect the different between a welcomed kiss and an unwelcomed kiss while it is happening, you should not kiss – OR – you are someone who has to ask “Do you like this?” “Shall I go on?” “Are you ready for this?”

   There was no “explicit consent” requirement.
   It is the rare porn video that does not demonstrate “affirmative consent.”

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9. 我的观点是，就像性本身一样，肯定同意可以是好玩的、感性的、严肃的、尊重的、色情的和创造性的。

   And my guess is that if you’re struggling to make consent any of those things, you’ll probably also have a tough time making sex any of those things.

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